So I just had a coaching session with someone fabulously Woo (Sofia Wren, if you’re interested) who pointed me towards the blog of another life-coach type – Tara Mohr. And Tara has a post up about Mentoring With Excellence.
Some of it is stuff we’ve discussed on Kink Leaders before (teaching with anecdotes or from personal experience, but being up front about doing so), some of it is new material. I particularly appreciated the explanation of “coaching questions” and how they work.
Anyway. Since mentoring is a sort of one-on-one, open-ended (Socratic Method?) type of teaching, and since a whole bunch of us are on the educator path (by the looks of things), I though I wouldn’t be the only one who found it helpful. Consequently, I’m linking it here.
Go forth and read. :-)
Tara Mohr Talks About Mentoring (handy resource)
Thanks for sharing, Syrens!
I think the second tip is especially useful if we’re to be porting these into a BDSM context. We all have a certain idea of what a mentoring relationship is “supposed to” consist of. However, just like other kink relationships, true wayism can stop people from getting what they want. Discussing what the relationship should be and revisiting that often seems like a step worth taking.
My friend runs a sort of one-on-one writers’ workshop (creative mentoring/editing type stuff) and her intake for literally has “What do you want to get out of this/these interaction(s)” as a question.
It’s a good idea, *and* it definitely make’s one’s job easier. :-)